ARE YOU JEALOUS?

                                                                                  

Jealousy is the mother of all the conflicts that are published into books and filmed novels. Jealousy is a key ingredient so that awesome stories are born. But only few of those readers or movie watchers knew how dangerous that word is.

But why do people get jealous?

When we are jealous we tell ourselves a story. We tend to let our wild imagination make a story that is enough so that we may feel bitter or unhappy because of his advantages or possessions. We know the exact words to use so that others may find him suspicious because of that advantage. We say things that are beyond the truth because you want him to be less than you are; or because you want to be that guy or you want to have that thing. 

“People get jealous because of our selfish desires. It starts with the preppy jealousy where you wish you could have that too. But way further than that, when we are too jealous to have that thing or that feature we will do all of those ways so that you can be better than him and he will be lesser than you are. ” - Megellano Rainer Fenis.

“People get jealous because we are intimidated by others’ possessions”, Mishael Occiano, a journalism student from Ateneo de Naga said. 

Remember that day when you were jealous with the new phone of your sister, or the new pencil case of your classmate, her awesome long blonde hair that you wish you also have but you just can’t, because you were born with a black curly hair?

Those were the days that you are horrible; you actually do things that are horrible. You make your sister believe that her phone is so horrible and she has to regret buying such poor thing. You actually stole that cute little pencil case and wrote your name in all caps, for emphasis, and lied that your mother gave it to you. And worse case, you went to salon for hair re-bond and have it dyed with blonde. But in the end, you found yourself ruining yourself and not those you wished to ruin.

        

       “For me there are three reasons why people get jealous. First is that when you do not have enough trust to a person. Second when you want to seek much attention to someone, and lastly when you truly love someone and you cannot imagined or even dreamed that this special someone will spend the rest of his or her life in the others arms.” - Katya Vargas

“Jealousy is a hungry emotion that we tend to be fed. By being jealous and doing horrible things we do those horrible things. We look at someone who is making his way to the top as a competitor and find ways to pull him down. That makes “jealousy” a dangerous word.” - Parul Sehgal, a talk giver of TEDtalk.com

Jealousy as described by them focused on the self desires. Desires that make us do horrible and terrible things. But what if, we look at those that we jealous as someone to look up to. Or else, at least be proud that someone has done great or is great enough to have those qualities? Yes, maybe pulling him down could make him look bad, but could that make you look good? Isn’t it better to see yourself with that someone whom you look up to when you already reach the top?